Support for low self-esteem
Psychologists and counsellors in attendance at our Centre help people understand where their beliefs about themselves come from, notice the patterns that keep those beliefs going, and practise new ways of thinking and acting that build genuine confidence.
Written and clinically reviewed by Natascha Madden, Registered Psychologist (AHPRA reg. PSY0000953827), Brisbane Counselling Centre. Last reviewed: October 2026
What does low self-esteem look like?
Self-esteem is the overall opinion you hold of yourself and your worth. When it is low, you might notice:
- a constant critical inner voice
- feeling not good enough, or like a fraud at work or study (imposter feelings)
- difficulty accepting compliments, or dismissing your achievements
- people pleasing, and finding it hard to say no
- avoiding challenges or new opportunities in case you fail
- comparing yourself unfavourably with others, including on social media
- perfectionism, or never feeling satisfied with what you do
- staying in relationships or jobs that do not treat you well
- feeling anxious, low or ashamed much of the time
Low self-esteem is not a diagnosis, but it often sits underneath anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties and stress, and it can make all of them harder to change.
Where does low self-esteem come from?
Our beliefs about ourselves usually form early, through experiences with family, school, friends and relationships. Criticism, bullying, neglect, high expectations, trauma, discrimination or major setbacks can all leave a lasting message that we are not good enough. Over time, that message can become the lens through which we see everything.
Understanding where your beliefs come from is not about blaming anyone. It is about recognising that they were learned, which means they can change. If painful past experiences are part of the picture, see our pages on trauma and PTSD and EMDR.
How can counselling help?
Your psychologist or counsellor will work with you to:
- identify and challenge the self-critical thoughts that keep low self-esteem going
- recognise your strengths and achievements in a realistic, balanced way
- develop self-compassion, so you can respond to mistakes with understanding rather than harshness
- practise assertiveness, boundaries and saying no
- face situations you have been avoiding, one step at a time
- reduce perfectionism and comparison
Approaches may include cognitive behaviour therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), compassion-focused therapy, schema therapy and EMDR where past experiences continue to shape how you see yourself. You can read more about what a typical session looks like.
How do I book an appointment?
- Please call (07) 3831 4452 or complete our enquiry form. Our reception team will suggest a suitable practitioner. You do not need a referral to book.
- Decide how you would like to pay. If low self-esteem is linked to anxiety or depression, a Mental Health Treatment Plan from your GP may give you a Medicare rebate. Private health insurance may also apply.
- Attend in person or online. Early morning, Saturday and online sessions are available.
Brisbane Counselling Centre is at Level 7, 87 Wickham Terrace, Spring Hill, about five minutes’ walk from Central Station. We are open Monday to Friday 7:30am to 5:30pm and Saturday 8:30am to 5:00pm. See our fees and rebates or meet the psychologists and counsellors.
Frequently asked questions
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We can help
The way you speak to yourself shapes how you feel, the choices you make and the relationships you allow into your life. If that inner voice has been harsh for a long time, it can feel like simply who you are. It does not have to stay that way.
Talking with a caring psychologist or counsellor can help you see yourself more clearly and more kindly, and build confidence that lasts. Take the courageous step and reach out today.
Please call to speak with our reception team, or send us a message. The Brisbane psychologists and counsellors are available to help.
If you need urgent support, contact Lifeline on 13 11 14, available 24 hours. In an emergency, call 000.
